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How (Not) To Learn Another Language As An Adult

A while back I was reading somewhere online (ok Forbes) that Less than 20 percent of American adults speak a language other than English. It piqued my interest because as a second language speaker in Italy I thought what about Europe? In The Guardian apparently just over half of Europeans (54%) are able to hold a conversation in at least one additional language, which is pretty impressive considering so many university and high school classes in Italy focalize on a more  theory-based curriculum. It got me to thinking about the beauty in speaking a second, third or (I’m looking at you Dutch people)  fourth language and more importantly, considering the myth I grew up with that only kids and their cerebral sponge brains can effectively pick up another tongue.

 

This month our Italian roundtable is tackling the topic of “myths and legends” and I want to go into language myths and how to overcome them. After all, this is very personal for this Tuscan Texan in this day and age. While I do speak Italian (with my fair share of mistakes of course), I have ventured into the wonderful, yet absolutely terrifying, world of learning French. This could be viewed as slightly masochistic on one end of the spectrum and quite exciting on the other. By wonderful I mean constantly uttering my painfully embarrassing, awkward pronunciation which sounds a bit like I’m trying to massacre the classic French verbal lesson of “Brian is under the table.”

 

I stumble over conversations with my very patient in-laws who speak no English and insist my French is getting  better (bless their souls). To be honest, I never thought I would be learning a third language at the ripe age of 32 and it freaks me out. However, I never knew I would be married to a pretty awesome French guy in Italy either.

 

Quite frankly, the aim of this post is merely to show support for others who might be going through the learning-language-as-an-adult saga in a fun way while attempting to debunk some popular myths around language learning in my very non-scientific yet honest and forthright human reasoning.

 

Furthermore, I want you to add your personal perspective if you’ve struggled with learning a second, third or fourth languages.

 

I welcome tips and suggestions so please comment with any you may have regarding this post! All I know is my own experience and I don’t pretend that anything I have to say in the matter is complete and utter truth. In fact, I commissioned the help of a Facebook group Italian Reflections to let me in on their own mistakes and tips which proved to be a really interesting discussion online.

 

Myth °1: Having a foreign spouse means you’ll learn immediately! Just have him speak to you only in ___ language!

 

Wrong. I always smile when someone says “oh your husband speaks French, you’ll speak it in no time.” Uttered every innocently of course from people who have no idea of your struggle as you wince something that sounds like an excuse. While it might seem easy to switch from one language to another with relative ease, it really isn’t. I wish it was true but it isn’t in my personal case unless we’re talking about Italian and English, which took years for me to feel comfortable with. Humans beings (or maybe just me?) have a tendency to be lazy, we want to communicate and we want to be understood.

 

Case in point, us.

 

Me, hello, I’m a native English speaker a “Tuscan Texan” that has embraced Italian and a sprinkling of French. Him native French, but speaks perfect English and Italian. Just to mix things up or to make our lives more complicated, we both live in Florence Italy. You would imagine that by already speaking Italian, French would be a piece of cake, the icing on our cupcakes but not really, it’s different. We aren’t surrounded by French speakers and I’ve found truly learning a bit harder than I expected, but this is also said knowing that I haven’t taken studying, speaking or learning all that seriously until now. Making French meals and listening to the occasional playlist does not make me a French speaker no matter how much I want that to be true.

 

Some might assume that teaching their spouse their native language is a marital duty but the reality is that day-to-day life gets in the way. Does that mean I’m lazy and that he should feel bad? Not really.

Cute French husband in front of Le Mont-Saint-Michel, a rocky island in Normandy, France.

Cute French husband in front of Le Mont-Saint-Michel, a rocky island in Normandy, France.

Our first year of marriage is about building a life together, which means spending time together. Conversation flows mostly from Italian to English and vice versa, it can be confusing to the outsider but makes total sense in our world. I look forward to the beautiful day when it will flow as easily in French. The thing is, we all know how awkward it can be correcting someone’s language skills on the spot, it can lead to fights, tears of frustration, misunderstandings. I’m really trying to not make Nico my translator, as it is so easy to default to that, plus the poor guy deserves a break.

 

On the flip side, I’m completely motivated to eventually learn his language because I am in total lust with French culture. We recently spent a week in Brittany and Normandy, driving our tiny car to picturesque towns that looked straight out of a storybook. I ran around the expansive Saturday market in Rennes (capital of Brittany) eagerly reading all of the labels for fruit and vegetables. It’s the prettiest market I’ve ever seen. I tried to order wine, oysters, and confidently threw out easy every-day phrases at bemused hotel staff. In fact some of them even thought I spoke French until they moved past present tense, that’s when I tensed up, turned red and looked to Nico to save the day.

Market day in Rennes, paradise on earth

Market day in Rennes, paradise on earth

That being said, the motivation is there, the key now is that I know I have to put as much work into this as I do everything else. This isn’t an 10 minute a day hobby, this has to be life.

Goncalo Silva for Flytographer

Just visiting France isn’t going make me learn French but I can order a coffee ;-). Photo by Goncalo Silva for Flytographer

 

Myth °2 Just move to the country and you’ll be speaking in no-time!

 

Don’t get me wrong, I do honestly believe living in a small town where no one speaks your native language would help. How could it not unless you never leave your front door?  To be fair, if you move to Le Marche, Molise, and you might be forced to learn by default as they aren’t tourist hubs like Florence. But just moving to Italy or France won’t automatically make you fluent, at least not for everyone. Here I find that shopkeepers will often reply to you in English even when you start conversation in Italian.

 

Also this theory negates people from learning wherever they live. I propose that you build a lifestyle where exposure to your target language is around every corner, and most of all, make it fun

 

One of the biggest mistakes I made while learning Italian was relying on the fact that I learned mostly from living with the Italian family of my ex-boyfriend. Sure, I picked up conversation fast as you can expect as his mother yelled simple Italian phrases with an ever-increasing volume, (she thought I couldn’t hear her) but that wasn’t the issue. What leads me to use the word “fluent” isn’t just spoken, but also written. My written Italian was frankly crap, and despite me reading newspapers and short books, it wasn’t really getting better because my grammar base wasn’t there. I was faking it in a way, guessing most of the time and eventually the guesses got better but did I really get how the language worked? No.

 

You need discipline and personal motivation to do the grammar and annoying parts at home on your own as well and many people (i.e: me) don’t do that. This time around with French, I’m trying a different tactic. After downloading the odd Duolingo app and watching movies with subtitles and listening to music, I still wasn’t getting anywhere. So I did what I should have done long ago, I signed up for a course where I would be awkwardly thrust into adult schooling. I signed up for 60 hours at the French Institute here in Florence, bought the books and I aim to tackle the grammar as well as I down a moscow mule on a Friday afternoon. Conversation can be done with Nico, but he himself would go crazy trying to convince me exactly how to pronounce the French “e” or slowly pronounce a tricky liaison. I want to stay married after all.

 

On another note, he is impressed on how I’ve managed to learn the numbers 1-20 with ease, it puts me at the same language level as a two-year-old.

 

Advice from Italian Reflections

 

Temple Perrotta advised “Also learn vocabulary that will help you with simple chores like shopping, buying a ticket, etc. There are some terrific picture dictionaries out there to help with vocabulary, def a worthwhile investment. Most important, don’t be afraid to make or be embarrased by mistakes! Everybody makes them, you’ll be appreciated for trying and you really do learn by them.”

 

Nancy Hampton added “I agree with people about putting yourself out there and trying. I don’t always follow my own advice though! Also, no one has mentioned how much watching Italian TV helps. Tunes your ear and the more you hear it the more you learn. And the more simplistic the show(at first) the better. Our favorite is l’eredita. On seven days a week from 6:45 to 7:45 RAI1 and is a quiz show. Because they write out the phrases and words (in Italian of course) you can hear and read them at the same time. Helps. Really improves your vocabulary. And if you have your phone or tablet handy you can look up words you don’t know.”

 

Myth °3 There is the perfect solution (aka Rosetta Stone) for anyone to learn in three months!

 

Really? You have no idea how many friends I have who have purchased the Rosetta Stone language learning course with high hopes of throwing back grappa with seasoned locals in Italy in no-time at all. Cue to reality while actually visiting Italy and barely a phrase of Italian was spoken, except for the occasional verbal-thrust of “cappuccino and pizza”. The biggest thing I learned about understanding a new language is that there is NO one-stop-shop method for learning a language. You might be having a marriage with verbs, I might be in an illicit “liaison” with conversation.

 

You say ‘Tomato,’ I say ‘Tomato,’ Let’s Call The Whole Thing Off

 

Example one: Nico and I are completely different and that should play into how you learn languages. Before he came to Italy, he spent three months listening to language-learning tapes and memorizing verbs and this worked for him. Because he had understood the structure behind the language (and French and Italian are similar), working in an Italian environment meant that in just a year he was speaking like a local.

 

Me on the other hand, would be more likely to fall asleep at the mere thought of that. I need stimulation and conjunctions in French scares me. What has been working instead is embracing a combination of exercises that yes include heavy vocabulary, rote, but also mingles in conversation, podcasts, music and movies. Things I actually would do anyway.

 

I have also been getting into a show called “Un dîner presque parfait” which is basically the French version of “Come Dine With Me” featuring locals throwing dinner parties and getting voted on their evening. I’m interested in food and I find that the show peaks my interest because it isn’t merely dialogue, they are chopping vegetables, shopping at the market and I might only get one out three words but I stay watching. I learn about local culture too, and just how serious French people take home cooking competitions.

 

My attention is apt to wane fast and knowing that, I’ve adjusted my way of learning. However, as I mentioned before I am learning to take vocabulary seriously this time around and not fall into the trap of being “understood” but not really correct. Also learning vocabulary that was right for me, what I do on a daily basis as opposed to remote past conjugations helps a lot too.

 

Advice from Italian Reflections

 

Mary Loscerbo from FB shared this tip “avoid hanging out with other English speaking people and listen and write out lyrics to Italian songs. It really is a great way and fun way of learning a language especially colloquialisms.” 

 

Caroline Chirichella: “Personally, I found putting myself in “uncomfortable” situations is what took my learning to the next level. I had taken some classes, read some language books, studied online (Rosetta Stone, Duolingo, etc), but it wasn’t until I started making a point of going out and having conversations with people that really lead to my picking up the language. At first, it was uncomfortable. I would be with a group of people as the only American and I was only able to pick up words here and there, but after a few times, I realized the value of it. Whether you’re going to a bar, trying to ask some questions at your butcher or out with friends, really communicating helped.”

 

Sarah May Grunwald joined in with “I would also agree with having to make a point to get out there. One thing that helped me learn Italian was joining classes in activities I like anyway. This has been much more useful that language school. So for me that means wine tastings, going back to University, cooking classes. Doing all my programs in Italian language.”

 

This is a sentiment I heard over and over from my Italian reflections crew with Amanda Giovannini saying “I would say taking a long term course in something you are passionate about instead of just taking a language class. I went through 2 years of wine courses to become a Sommelier and couldn’t seem to stick with an Italian course to save my life. Find your motivation by following a passion- and of course a glass of wine doesn’t hurt either.”

 

Temple Perrotta added “Yes I confess to sneaking into my daughter’s Topolino (comics) collection to enhance my vocab. I devoured Italian magazine articles to get a handle on structure and increase vocab. It all helped no end, but first I had to develop confidence and that took a bit of time.”

 

Teaching as a Way to Learn

 

Geoffrey S Watson  added “Teaching is great for learning! When I had enough Italian to teach it (privately) to other expats with less Italian than I had, I needed to prepare every lesson very well in advance on this or that aspect of grammar or pronunciation or vocabulary. You can’t explain something well until you’ve taken it thoroughly on board yourself.”

 

Myth °4 It’s impossible to learn multiple languages as an adult

 

It’s often said that you can’t teach an old dog new tricks, but that’s not really true is it? I’ve heard this sentiment ever since I was born. By the way I’m pretty sure Spanish was my first language but after my parent’s divorced that got lost in some sad language abyss. I completely believe that as an adult you can learn multiple languages if you want it badly enough.

 

I always use Nico as the example. When he speaks Italian, no one locally even knows that he is French (no one says that about me), and he learned in his early twenties, not at the age of three. I also have the tendency to success stories like this, the only issue, I should be reading this in French.

 

What remains one of the most important things to remember during this often frustrating process is that you are going to make mistakes, in fact so many mistakes that you will laugh about it all later. I’ve said the most offensive of words to all kinds of people (it seems like every third word in Italian means something kind of dirty), my mother in law included. It’s going to happen and don’t let that be a deterrent to speaking in public.

 

I loved this advice from a website about language learning I read recently “Does it take time and focused commitment? Absolutely! Can it be scary and intimidating? Sure! But is it “hard”? Not necessarily.

 

Your attitude towards language learning is the biggest factor in how difficult or easy a language will be to learn.

 

The truth is, the difficulty doesn’t lie within the language itself, but in the study methods and materials you use, and your attitude towards the language. Adapt your approach to be like a scientist testing out new theorems. Find the methods that work best for you instead of committing yourself to one that is familiar, but ineffective.”

 

Advice From Italian Reflections

 

Rosemarie Scavo: “Strangely enough, I found being an English teacher (from adults to very young learners) has helped a lot. It encourages you to think about how language(s) work! Rather Italian turns of phrase in English helped me to understand Italian structures and vocabulary. A big myth about language learning in my experience: you have to be very young to start learning a new language. It’s completely untrue. An adult can learn a new language. It’s just a matter of ensuring you have regular contact with the language (i.e. living in the country of the target language, having to use the target language for work) and motivation!”

 

That’s not all folks, make sure and check out the other posts this month from our Italian roundtable group which all center around the theme “myths and legends.” 

 

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    Maaike - Travellous World
    20.10.2016 at 9:29

    I felt that being in Rome, learning Italian, ‘made it so much easier for me to learn the language. I was able to apply it straight away in practice. I’ve learned German, French and Italian in school, but feel that I’ve learnt more Italian in a few weeks time in Italy, than in 3 years at uni

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      GirlInFlorence
      20.10.2016 at 9:45

      Ciao Maaike, thank you for your comment, that’s helpful to hear. I feel like Rome might be better in those circumstances than Florence where people tend to respond back to you in English or just speak straight English to you. I’ve actually met a fair amount of people who have lived here for years and don’t speak Italian, but that is more because of the circles they hang out in.

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    Valerie Quintanilla
    20.10.2016 at 10:16

    Great read, Georgette. I can especially relate to “… just moving to Italy or France won’t automatically make you fluent, at least not for everyone.” I’ve got one friend from home in particular who is terribly bothered that I have not mastered the language yet. As far as I know, she doesn’t speak another language, nor has ever lived abroad…and, she swears another friend became fluent in Italian via Rosetta Stone. Yeah, um, that didn’t work for me. Tried it.

    I’m with you on the real courses and forcing it. I am still terrible at the language. *she blushes*

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    Laura Thayer | Ciao Amalfi
    20.10.2016 at 10:32

    Really enjoyed and found lots of comfort and inspiration simultaneously in this post, Georgette. Thanks for sharing! The part about changing languages within a relationship really resonated with me. When I met my Italian husband nearly 10 years ago now he spoke excellent English and I spoke about 3 words of Italian. Our relationship was mostly long distance for the first year and a half, which meant our language was cemented in English. I’ve found that to be especially the case for him. Even when startled out of a dead sleep at night by a loud noise he will speak to me immediately in English. THAT is a language preference in the brain that is hard to change. But certainly not impossible – and the not being lazy about it part is key. You’ve inspired me to get my Italian grammar book off the shelf again. Thanks!

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    Julia Harden
    20.10.2016 at 11:01

    Thanks Georgette, this article has been very helpful and just what I needed to read at this time. I’ve just started my second year of learning Italian at night school and after an extra long summer break and an embarrassing and confidence sapping first class where I felt like I couldn’t remember any of the grammar I had previously tried to learn (I struggle with grammar and learning verbs at the best of times), this has hopefully put me back on track again.

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    Glenn Trost
    20.10.2016 at 14:20

    Ciao Georgette! Your article is very interesting to me, as I am learning (trying to learn) both French and Italian. I started with French at the adult classes at the local community college, then re-started with Italian when the French classes ran out. Fortunately the Italian instructor is very good, and I have continued with her in private class that meets for two hours once per week. We study grammar and do grammar exercises every week, and each student must research and make a 15-minute presentation every week.

    My Italian is now pretty good, and I can speak with native speakers in normal conversations on Skype (we connect via italki.com).

    In the meantime my daughter started at a French school so I re-started French lessons. French is much more difficult than Italian, in my opinion — more irregular, more exceptions to the grammatical rules to memorize, and they are more particular about pronunciation. So good luck to both of us on that!

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    Delaney Kirk
    20.10.2016 at 15:58

    I started studying my first foreign language (Italian) at the age of 60 and now am studying Spanish. It’s completely doable if you put the time in and really want to learn. I use Duolingo, watch TV news and soap operas, and read blogposts in my target language. Thanks for this article-I enjoy reading about your adventures in Italy. Maybe we can meet for a glass of wine next time my husband and I are in Florence! Buon fine settimana!

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    Kelly Borsheim
    20.10.2016 at 17:10

    This is a sweet post because I suspect it makes many feel less alone for sure. I am surprised at the 20% stat of the US since I assumed that the Hispanic population would have upped that.
    I think your point about who you spend time with is spot on. Expats are great when it comes to sharing legal info and other stuff that you might never even think to ask about, but having only foreign friends leaves one in a cocoon of sorts. My landlord encourages me to speak in Italian even with people who speak both Italian and English here. He is a patient teacher, and yes, we have had a bit of fun with the often naughty double meanings in Italian [which frankly only helps my memory!]. He did not believe me when I told him that often I must ask Italians to speak to me in Italian! But once, I was speaking with another stone carver. I spoke Italian. He spoke in English. Finally, he got frustrated seeking for a way to describe something about stone that he wanted me to know and asked me, “May I say it in Italian?”
    “per favore!” I smiled, wondering why he never accepted my request in the first place. But my landlord was listening to the exchange, so I beamed a smile over to him.
    My problem is that I have not wanted to take the time to study Italian when I first came over to study other subjects (and sadly the schools here were in English and most of my time was spent in that world). I made a point to make local friends and try to fumble my way through and yes, I believe even listening to conversations on TV, youtube, or radio help, even when I am working and thinking of other things and not properly paying attention.

    What I find most interesting is that in some ways I learn more about English (as I rack my brain to think of how many ways we say we “begin” for example, so that I can “fake” my way through Italian.. to guess “cominciamo”), while other times, now after many years in Italy, I use the Italian word and cannot seem to recall the English one.

    Thank you for this post.

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    Rosemarie
    20.10.2016 at 20:35

    Excellent post Georgette! I’m so glad you touched upon something I neglected to mention when I made my comments on IR – different learning styles. My uni degree was in linguistics and I’ve always been a ‘bookworm’ so I enjoyed learning Italian and French in ways which involved analysing language and reading. Not everyone is the same though and you’re completely right to point out the different methods you and Nico have used. As someone who has taught English in the French system for several years now, I can see why Nico’s way of learning worked for him (the French system places a big emphasis on verb conjugation and learning ‘metalanguage’, plus, as you say, French and Italian are similar) but is less appealing to you. Music, podcasts, pilates classes are definitely more appropriate to those of us who process information in an auditory or kinaesthetic way.

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      GirlInFlorence
      21.10.2016 at 16:41

      Thanks Rosemarie, I appreciated your advice as always! Interesting that your degree was in linguistics, I had no idea but it makes sense now with your lovely writing style too :). You are very right about the French system, Nico always explains it as “verbs first” conversation second and using a more rote methodology to learning, which apparently worked for him. My brain works a little differently than his hence my need for a moe multi-sensory application to language learning however the verbs are a must no matter how much I cringe. One thing that I am also leaning to do is to look at my notes every single day, leaving it a week or two means I lose a lot while even just glancing at the book daily helps jog what I’ve learned into my memory. It’s a process!

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    Wynne
    20.10.2016 at 22:31

    Such a timely post, as I plan on starting my Rosetta Stone by year-end (or First of the New Year) as a first step in the process of learning Italian. I also have several early-education language and picture books, so hopefully that will help as well.

    My interest is definitely piqued by the concept of “Come Dine with Me” or “EatWith” (www.eatwith.com) – sounds like SO much fun (though possibly frustrating)!

    Good luck with learning French – what a cool thing to be potentially tri-lingual!

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      GirlInFlorence
      21.10.2016 at 16:38

      Ciao Wynn, always nice to hear from you! I would even add Masterchef Italia to your repertoire as that too is a very “manual” not only dialogue formatted show and it would be fun to watch anyway. Keep me posted on your progress and I wish you luck. Let’s see after a year if my French gets good enough to not rely on Nico to translate everything when we’re in his hometown.

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    Sharon
    21.10.2016 at 1:25

    Thanks, again, Georgette, for a fun read! I’ve been learning Italian for the past 20 years and it’s an on-going process. I don’t live in Italy, but travel there frequently, bringing groups, going to Travel Trade Global etc, so I throw myself in every possible situation that I can to practice. At home, I subscribe to RAI international on Dish network, so I am passionate about watching game shows like Reazione a Catena and L’Eredita’ to practice. I also love Montalbano and even make myself watch Don Matteo…just to see I can follow the stories. Love your Texas, Italian, French stories so you are part of my learning process too!

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      GirlInFlorence
      21.10.2016 at 16:36

      My pleasure Sharon! You definitely are smart to watch Rai and other Italian language programs, I’m certain that could help quite a bit. Nico actually told me it was the game shows that really jump started his Italian comprehension, especially the word guessing ones. My aim with this was to share frustrations, stories and just sort of be a support system for one another online. I really have been down on myself regarding not picking up French quickly enough and it’s comforting to know that I am not alone.

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      Wynne
      21.10.2016 at 16:42

      Oh, I love Master Chef here – it would be such fun to watch the Italian version. Thanks for the rec!

      When I was traveling through the Pisa train station in 2013, I had a simple exchange (ordering lunch at a sandwich counter) and it was entirely in Italian. I was SO proud of myself, and grateful the gentleman serving me didn’t resort to English.

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    Minna
    21.10.2016 at 7:41

    17 years ago I moved to Florence for 6 months to learn the language in a little private school (Accademia del Giglio is EXCELLENT, if you need tutoring). I still remember the day I could form a complete sentence in conversation class. I’m from Finland, there’s only 6 millions in the world who speak my language, so I’m used to learn foreign languages since I was a little. By the time I moved to Florence I had already studied English, Swedish, Latin and French. Still learning Italian was absolutely the hardest I’ve ever done. It’s totally different to live surrounded by the natives who don’t speak English than go to school for a couple of hours and then speak your native language the rest of the day.

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      GirlInFlorence
      21.10.2016 at 16:35

      Ciao Minna, thank you for sharing. I’m a big fan of Finland by the way, we’ve been during the Santa Lucia festival and the midsummer events. I’ve always had a strong admiration for your Northern Europeans and your very adeptness at languages. But it is quite comforting that you struggled with Italian too. The thing about Florence that you touched on is the fact that people speak so much English here and that there is a big international community. You have to try harder, put yourself out there more, get an Italian roommate. Ps. thanks for the Italian language school recommendation, it’s always good to know as people ask me about them a lot.

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    Minna
    21.10.2016 at 17:05

    That’s nice to hear that you like Finland 🙂 When I was living there I was mostly hanging out with my fidanzato fiorentino and he and none of his friends didn’t speak English at all, so I had to literally learn to speak again, like a baby, word by word. But it was great, there’s only so much you can learn in a classroom.

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    Sonia
    22.10.2016 at 0:40

    Great post Georgette. I know the struggle well. Everyone thought I’d learn Italian in no time once Carlo and I got married. We’ve been together for 10 years and we still can’t speak to each other in Italian. It’s just too awkward. Learning it on my own really has been the best method. I agree with Amanda, that learning via a subject you are passionate about it is a great way. I learned by watching makeup tutorials on Youtube! haha.. I couldn’t carry a real conversation but I could totally hold my own at Sephora.
    I took French in HS but that was 20 years ago but learning Italian has brought back all of those rules and now I can remember certain words in phrases. I’m hoping I’ll be able to relearn it someday. I think you’ll do just fine.

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    Karen
    22.10.2016 at 20:28

    Lots of excellent advice! Something I personally find difficult as an adult language learner is switching between the foreign languages themselves. I speak Italian and German, but only one at a time. I can go from Italian to English and German to English pretty well, although I sometimes will respond in the wrong language. However, switching between the two foreign languages gives me great difficulty, to the point that after a few days of German and then walking into an Italian restaurant, I can’t produce a simple phrase in Italian before I hear someone else say something in Italian first. And to give some perspective, I’ve passed an international C2 language test in the not so distant past. I’m fluent, but my brain clearly has a processing problem. I think that maybe I need to spend some time practicing in the Alto Adige…

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    Jessica
    22.10.2016 at 21:54

    Wonderful tips, Georgette! And best of luck with French. That was my first foreign language, in high school, & as soon as I started learning Italian my French vacated the premises. Occasionally (usually when visiting my French cousins) a random French word or two will pop in to my head & I don’t even know what they mean. 🙂

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    TonyM
    23.10.2016 at 4:32

    Thank you for this post. I never felt it was hard but just making the time for it, that was the hard part. I grew up in S. Louisiana and didn’t speak English until in the 2nd grade, I learned “Cajun French” as it was the language spoken by my parents, grandparents, aunts & uncles. I learned English the hard way while trying to hang on to my French. Sadly that language is becoming lost as time goes. I’ve been lucky enough to travel to France a few times and managed to speak and ask for things in French, my dialect but it worked. I’ve often thought it would be great to take a formal French course and at 55 I may still do that. I’ll get to that eventually. Meanwhile, I’m using Duolingo to get the basics of Italian. My partner has gotten further along and has also had skype meetings with Italians who want to learn English while helping with his Italian. I now have a break from other things and will go back to Duolingo and work on more of the basics.

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    Cindy Drover-Davidson
    24.10.2016 at 16:01

    Excellent post, Georgette! I learned French from primary school to high school graduation, and though I’m MANY years older, I can still “get by” for the most part. Two decades later, I took on Spanish and later, Italian. It is more challenging to learn another language as an adult, perhaps because we have less time to focus on studying. Even though Canada is officially bilingual (English and French), I’ve had more opportunities to use the Spanish I’ve acquired, though I try them all out when I travel. Unfortunately, I tend to speak in sentences with words from the various languages. I take advantage of opportunities to *try* speaking in the additional languages, usually with the rough preface “Sono Canadese, y hablo Inglese. Je sais un peu de Francais, un poquito de Español, e un poco d’Italiano. Quando parlo, io parlo bits and pieces de las languas. Je m’excuse, per favore.” That usually gets a laugh and I have a conversation with many interesting people. As long as I can laugh at myself, and don’t mind others laughing at/correcting me, and if I can comfortably admit when I don’t understand something, it’s not so intimidating. People are basically kind and will try to help me along, delighted that I’m making an attempt, awful as it may be. Learning an additional language and its nuances is a constant work in progress. Sounds like you’re up for the challenge!

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    Gloria
    24.10.2016 at 22:10

    Obviously having a partner who speaks a different language helps learning that language and so does living in a country where the language is spoken. You get so much more input that at home. But you are right, when you are adult, it might not be enough. As a linguist I loved your post! 🙂

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    Pam
    25.10.2016 at 22:21

    Thanks for this! I’m single and 51 and just moved from Dallas to Vieste! I’ve met the six or seven people here who speak English and I realize I will need to not seek them out, and will need to just jump in and be unafraid to make mistakes. It’s the only way, but it’s scary! I love your blog!

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    CatherineRose
    26.10.2016 at 19:33

    Thanks for busting these myths! It drives me crazy when people think just living in-country automatically makes you fluent. (I probably thought the same thing at one point though.) I would loooove to speak better Italian. When I was in Florence, everyone spoke English to me 🙁 French is not easy, especially at first – it’s awesome that you’re working on a third language! If you don’t know about commeunefrançaise.com, I highly recommend it – she has awesome content for everyday French and cultural topics and expressions. Bon courage !

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      GirlInFlorence
      27.10.2016 at 10:10

      Thanks Catherine, I want to feel like I actually have a chance at this and don’t want to convince myself that it’s impossible before I begin. Florence is probably not the best place to learn Italian unless you shy away from the International community, it’s a little easier for Europeans (my personal opinion). I will check out that website, thank you!!!!

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        CatherineRose
        28.10.2016 at 2:38

        French is just awkward at the beginning because of the tricky pronunciation, in my opinion – once you get on a roll it gets easier and easier 🙂 Bonne chance !

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          GirlInFlorence
          28.10.2016 at 9:57

          Merci Catherine!!!

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    Stephanie Terrone
    28.10.2016 at 19:56

    My husband and I used Rosetta Stone to learn Italian and I listened to Italian pop music as well which was helpful. While we didn’t get through the whole curriculum before we flew to Florence, we knew enough to put ourselves out there. I couldn’t believe how nervous I was to speak to our non-English speaking cab driver. But after I managed to spit out a few words in Italian about which hotel we were staying at, my confidence grew. We definitely made mistakes – especially when ordering out in restaurants but we found that they were willing to correct us and help us, since we were willing to learn. Our second night in Italy my husband ordered a glass of wine in a coffee cup – and fortunately they let us know – and taught us the right word for wine glass. Now we’ll never forget it! This was a great post. Thanks!

    http://www.stephanieterrone.com

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    bonnie melielo
    01.11.2016 at 4:39

    Great article Georgette and a topic that generates a lot of interest! I started studying Italian at the age of 50 in preparation for our first trip. Since then we have “rediscovered” our roots, have made annual trips there and obtained dual citizenship. My husband and I were raised in Italian American homes but the dialects were only spoken by our grandparents. It is my passion and joy but even so I don’t study as diligently as I need to!! I have taken classes through C2, used CDs, watched movies and tv shows, bought dozens of books – literature as well as grammar, etc. I think it really takes a combination of book study, classes and “on the street” opportunity for conversation to really make progress. What a thrill it was, that trip where I made the leap to conversant. Wow!! To just be able to speak without pre-planning the sentences in my head!! I was sooooo excited!! What really helped was a weekly get-together with two friends, one of whom was pretty fluent and the other definitely conversant. Next goal is language classes in Italy!!

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    Alexandra
    06.11.2016 at 16:58

    I laughed out loud when you said Nico was impressed at your ability to learn the numbers 1-20 so quickly, putting you at the level of a two year old!

    Having one extra language makes getting more a bit easier (as long as it’s something usefully structured and not say, Hungarian or Icelandic). My mom sent me to French immersion in part as she loved French but, she claims, in part because from there I could learn other languages. For me, this was totally true – Italian came naturally as i had the French grammar base, and just moving here and having to eat was enough for me to become fluent in a year. On the other hand, attempts to learn German and Latin failed.

    As you know, it’s not easy to keep more than one foreign language in your head, so I lost my French (hence the embarrassing conversation with your in laws at your wedding). Being IN the place makes it so much easier. I’m sure if you met Nico while living in France you’d be great at French. Being here, it’ll always be a struggle, but kudos to you for trying!

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    Diana
    04.02.2017 at 0:53

    I can totally agree with much of what you have written. I can’t say anything on no.1 though, but definately on the other 3.

    2+3.There is no way learning a language in 3 months unless you are some kind language wonder with a photographic-memory-something. Sure, you might be able to ‘survive’ during a holiday stay, but you can’t be fluent or achieve a language level a native has. Even moving there won’t bring the success you thought it would bring unless you have a basic knowledge.
    I spent a week excavating in Sherwood Forest with the highest certificate of English a non-native can get and it took me 3 days to get used to it. And even after that it was really difficult some times finding the right vocabulary. Especially the specific archaeological vocabulary. The second week this year will be much easier as I now know the words. Without my hard earned -10 year school English resulting in an Alevel course at the end and 8 conventions later- it would have been much harder.

    4. This myth is totally untrue. With my nearly 23 years on this planet I speak 7/8 languages (depending on if Latin counts), Italian being my 7/8th language. German is my mother tongue, continuing with English, then via French, Latin, Scotish Gaelic, Irish and Danish to Italian. Sure, English and French were taught at school (As soon as I got Latin my marks in French were a lot better than before 😀 ), but the Gaelic languages and Danish were taught at university. I might not be able to shop in Gaelic, but I understood some major things of these languages. 6 Months with 30 Minutes a week -Christmas and similar holidays are not enough to really get into a language and having a super nice teacher which was not able to really teach us the important Irish structures to really use it within 2 years were not that good. But even after learning French for 6 years (level b2) and not really using it for 3 years I can say I would survive in France but it would be extremely difficult.

    It is important to be passionate about a language and having teachers that make it fun to learn (my turning point in English was the best teacher I ever had). I had the strength to do level A1In Italian via a free online course on futurelearn but I need a teacher now to go one step further and take learning Italian to a level which leads me to being more or less fluent and being able to survive during a study abroad stay in Italy.

    It definately belongs on every single person but one can find the perfect way to learn a language in their own speed, no matter how old you are.

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    Kathryn Occhipinti
    16.02.2017 at 4:14

    Great post! For anyone who wants to learn Italian, please try my Conversational Italian for Travelers books on Amazon.com and wwwl.LearnTravelItalian.com. http://amzn.to/2h8cky9. I wrote them for adults, to address all of the problems above. Learning as an adult is truly different than learning as a child the first time, since we have been conditioned to think a certain way by the first language. All that must be forgotten and you must learn to THINK in Italian to learn Italian! Approach it as a fascinating way to get to know another people and their culture – which it is!

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